I will never get used to people note recognizing me…

Just as my subject line states, I don’t think I will ever get used to people not recognizing me. It’s happened with people at work, family, friends…. everyone! It’s really difficult to keep in mind sometimes that while the changes in my appearance seem to have taken forever to ME… they really haven’t taken that long in grand scheme of things. I would imagine it’s probably pretty jarring for someone that hasn’t seem me in a really long time to all of a sudden see a version of me that is 223 lbs lighter – especially since nobody in the town that I live in now has known the thinner version of me (I started gaining weight when I went to college).

Today, I’m presenting two different sessions at a faculty event for the University. I’ve been working all day at the conference center and I was standing outside of the room I was going to present in at 11:00 a.m. with a couple of other people waiting for the previous presenter to finish. Well, he was running late… so it was about 11:02 a.m. The event organizer, whom I met last year at this time during last year’s event, was standing RIGHT next to me for about 5 minutes and he seemed to be agitated. He kept looking through his phone and I heard him mumbled, “Where is SHE!”

After a second or two… it occurred to me that he’s probably referring to me. I turned to him and I said, “The presenter?” to which he replied, “Yes!” I said, “Oh, that’s me! Sorry… I was just waiting for this guy to finish, I didn’t know if I was supposed to go in there or not.”

Clearly you could tell the guy was embarrassed. He was apologizing and saying “Sorry, I didn’t realize you were here. I shouldn’t have been so rude and to assume….” and that’s all he said. Now, I don’t think it’s unreasonable for me to assume that he remembered me well enough that he was expecting a 444 lb woman to come waddling up to the room LOL. If he didn’t remember what I looked like AT ALL then he would have assumed one of the people standing outside of the door was the presenter. He was expecting the old me and had no idea who I was, despite walking past me several times when I was the ONLY person waiting outside of the room, and then returning and literally RIGHT next to me for at least 5 minutes.

It was quite a scene. I actually felt bad for him because he seemed embarrassed. As someone that has coordinated large events, I understand the anxiety that you feel when you think a presenter hasn’t shown up (it’s terrible!) I’m certainly not offended that he didn’t recognize me either – it happens with my own family!

However, I really don’t think I’m going to get used to it. It’s so strange! I actually went to a convenience store the other day where a woman waited on me that I used to work with at the University for a year and a half (she works at the store part-time). When I used to go there and she waited on me, we’d have long conversations and catch up with each other. This time when I said, “Hey, how are you?” – she gave me the “Fine” response and not a hint of recognition was in her eyes! At that point, I just let it go and didn’t say anything… it would’ve been too awkward to say, “Hey… it’s me!” haha

Has this happened to you?

((Random side note: My husband and I went out to dinner last weekend and were not asked if we wanted separate checks – AGAIN! LOL… hasn’t happened in a LONG time and I don’t think it’s a coincidence!))


How Things are Changing Post Weight Loss

I’ve been noticing some changes happen around me as I’ve lost more and more weight. My husband thinks that I’m crazy when I point out these changes, but I’m guessing that anyone that has experienced a huge life event such as massive weight loss has probably experience the same things. I find them so interesting. Some of the things that I’ve noticed: Continue reading

A Head Scratcher: Holy Attention, Batman! Part Deux!

Last week, I wrote a blog post called Holy Attention, Batman! (my attempt at being funny) where I discussed the large amount of attention that I received when I went to a cookout at my mother-in-laws house over the weekend. It had been about 7 months since I had seen most people at this get together and I was happy, yet overwhelmed by the amount of people that commented on my weight loss – or rather, they told me that I looked “really great!” At that time, I had mentioned that this past weekend I would be spending time with my Dad’s family in Ohio and I was trying to get myself mentally prepared for the possibility of this happening again since they hadn’t seen me since my wedding two years ago. I would estimate I was around 420-425 lbs at that time and I am 302 lbs now. I have to say, this weekend is what I would call a real “head scratcher”…. Continue reading

Overweight/Obese Women with Fit Men

I came across an article today on Yahoo! News called I’m Overweight and My Boyfriend’s Not. Big Freakin’ Deal and it reminded me of all the things I feel regarding my husband and I. I started this journey at 444 lbs and even though I’m down to 311 now, I’m still much, much larger than my husband. He’s an attractive (in my opinion), fit Phys Ed teacher and I know that we look like we don’t belong together. Years ago, I introduced my husband (fiance at the time) to my co-workers at an event and on Monday, one of my co-workers said“Oh my goodness, your fiance is REALLY cute, I wasn’t expecting that!!” Although it was really rude (and she had no idea lol), I know that the harsh reality is that this is what a lot of people are thinking. Continue reading

Is This Together or Separate? Update!

So, in a previous post, I had mentioned that often times when we go out to eat, my husband (who is young, attractive, and fit) and I are often asked if we want “separate checks” when we dine out. I am 27, he is 28, we have no kids and we both wear wedding rings.  Despite the constant conversation as we dine and the wedding rings, we are repeatedly asked this question. For more detail on my “theory” check out the original post. Continue reading

Is This Separate…. or Together? A Social Experiment

Tonight my husband and I celebrated the 8th anniversary of our first date and really the anniversary of when we became a couple. Because we went to Applebee’s for our first date, we have made it a tradition to go there every year on January 31st.

Something happened tonight that doesn’t always happen, but it happens enough that I take notice. When we were finished eating, the waitress came up to us and said “Will this be on separate checks…….Or together?” Continue reading