Last week, I was talking on the phone with my aunt (who really is only a few years older than me) about her recent trip to FL for my cousin’s bridal shower, dressing shopping, etc. While she was riding somewhere in a car with the bride to be, she was sitting in the back seat with my other Aunt (mother of the bride) and the maid of honor (my other cousin, bride’s sister).
In the car, they were talking about weight and how the bride is still trying to lose a few lbs and my Aunt (mother of bride who does not know about surgery) practically yelled, “OMG, SPEAKING OF WEIGHT… HAVE YOU SEEN THE PICS OF NIKKE? She looks SO good! She’s lost SO much weight.”
She was referring to pictures I had posted on Facebook of my husband and I. The maid of honor cousin said “What are you talking about” and I guess both aunts had said that I had lost a lot of weight and looked really good. So…. then the maid of honor cousin (who has a laundry list of issues) said:
“Oh…. so she finally got the Lap Band? What brought this on??”
While I’m not sitting here losing sleep over this comment…. I am trying to figure out why it annoys me so much. I guess I can’t quite put my finger on it? Maybe it’s because it feels like she is 1) assuming I would need WLS to lose any weight at all and 2) That her tone indicates she thinks it’s some kind of easy way out gimmick? I mean…. I did in fact have weight loss surgery… so why am I irritated and offended that she would say that?
I don’t really know why. While I do plan to “ignore her” because no, I do not care what she thinks of me… I have put a lot of work into understanding the root of my emotions since starting therapy during the supervised diet. My husband felt the same way about the comment… he immediately said “Wow, that was F*$&ing rude!”… but he couldn’t really explain why it was rude either lol
And yes, I guarantee you it was rude… you just have to know the girl lol! Maybe somebody else can articulate why I find this comment so irritating? I can’t put my finger on it!